RSVP

I was thinking recently about the many times over the past five years when I have told a friend or acquaintance that I have Parkinson’s and the varied responses I have received. For the most part, I’ve had a huge amount of support, and compassionate responses when I tell anyone. I understand that it can be difficult to know what to say. As with everything else sometimes we get it just right and sometimes we don’t. The responses below offer some insights into the reactions of others. Enjoy them, they are all absolutely true.

Laughter

Laughing out loud may not be a typical response, but when I shared the news with some of my best friends, we all laughed and laughed until we were crying with laughter. It was absolutely the most appropriate response with this lovely group of girls. All of us knew what the diagnosis meant, none of us knew what to say, so we did what we always do when we’re together and laughed until our sides hurt.

Disbelief / Denial

I told a friend who replied that it couldn’t be true because I was too young. Promising to get in touch in the next couple of weeks, I haven’t heard from her in five years.

Advice

‘Don’t tell anyone because people will think about you and treat you differently’

Empathy?

‘I have tinnitus. You can’t begin to imagine how awful it is. There is absolutely nothing worse……’

Words of Wisdom

‘Be kind to yourself, look after yourself and do something every day, no matter how small, that makes you smile.’

A Hug

By far the most common response I’ve had. No words needed. This action says it all.

Tears

Often accompanied by a hug.

Support

‘What do you need from me?’

‘Tell me what I can do to help.’

‘I’m here if you need me.’

Swearing

‘Oh, F***, Oh F***, Oh F***ety F***!!!’

Missed the Point

‘How long will it take you to recover?

Lucky You!

‘You’re lucky! Of all the progressive degenerative neurological conditions, this is the one to have.’

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2 thoughts on “RSVP

  1. Wish we were living closer Alison. We are always thinking of you and sending positive thoughts your way.
    You are an amazing lady and a beautiful writer. Ray and I always read your blogs.
    Sending love your way. xxxx

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  2. I had someone say “you don’t look ill”. A number of people said how sorry they were which was understandable though I don’t really want sympathy. Some said I must have been devastated to get the diagnosis but actually it was a relief that it wasn’t anything worse. The people who were most helpful, and that is not to criticise the others, were those who offered something constructive for example asking what they could do to help.

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